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Discover the amazing benefits of working out on the floor.

Created for dancers by Zena Rommett over 50 years ago, floor barre is a proven system of exercises, done with your back on the floor with knees bent,  sitting up,  and on your side, The exercises lengthen the legs, arms and back.  Allowing the support of the floor, the back lengthens naturally while attention is paid to the pelvis maintaining its correct alignment with the legs and torso.

Read how Floor Barre® saved me from early retirement and rehabilitated me during injury:

I injured myself first in the 1980’s while touring Italy and dancing in outdoor festivals, and in January of this year.  I started the technique after my first injury and I regained my full range of motion and was pain free and dancing again. Although helpful, neither doctors, chiropractors, osteopaths and massage therapists could give the relief I found through floor barre classes !

With Zena’s work, I discovered I needed to provide myself with the means whereby I could heal on my own.  Floor barre offers a wonderful tool to strengthen and stretch your muscles in the most optimal skeletal alignment. You will also benefit from the Alexander Technique tools that I share every day with my students.

To book a  Floor Barre lesson, on Zoom, email me at bette@betterballroomwithbette.com, fill out the contact form below  or call 973 432 5815.

Make Floor Barre® a healthy, feel good new habit!

pointed feet and flexibility

Your Feet!

3 Tips to flexible, strong ankles and beautiful feet.

In every style of  dance, feet are both the extension of the leg line and an important articulator of rhythm and modulator of both speed and stillness.  In Latin and Rhythm, Smooth and Standard, the use of your feet is the key to driving your movement from point A to B.

Feet  are used to punctuate changes of rhythm. And women, in particular are graded on the use of their arches and the pliability of the ball of the foot and heel.  Aside from the aesthetic advantage of a beautiful arch, feet distribute weight either first through the heel lead in smooth and Standard dances or the ball of the foot in Latin and Rhythm.

When the feet are off the floor as in extension or pointed in tendu, they must be alive, with full engagement of the heel, arch and toes.  In walks, the feet are like cats paws that use the ground to push through each part of the foot, again, toe, ball, heel.  Distinguishing the 3 parts of each foot creates a sinuous quality that is both aesthetically pleasing and grounding for better balance and alignment.

Tip # 1

In your lessons and in all your social dancing, pay attention to your ankles.  Are you tightening around the joint?  If you notice this, ask yourself if you can let go and think of the ball of the foot as releasing into the floor.  You can practice tightening and letting go to see just how much tone you need e.g. to step to the side, forward and back.  The same goes for heel leads.  The ankle joint should be pliable and not stiff.

Tip #2

Think your whole spine pointing up while your neck and shoulders are easeful.  This will serve as an important tonal  guide all the way down to your feet and ankles.

Tip #3

Find 10-15 minutes a day to work your feet.  Here are some short exercises:

This foot exercise is designed to create mobility in the ankle joint and strengthen the arches.

  1. Lie on a mat or carpeted surface with your knees bent, feet on the floor.
  2. Flex your right foot, draw it up to knee level and with your knee bent, raise it up so that your flexed foot is facing the ceiling.
  3.  Circle your foot around the ankle 8 times outward and then 8 times inward. Keep your lower leg quiet.  Switch to the left foot and do the same.
  4.  Repeat #1 and #2 and this time Curl your toes, spread your toes,  point your foot (heel, ball of the foot and toes) and flex (toes, ball of the foot and heel).  Repeat 5 times each foot.

 

Do these exercises every day and after a week, notice how pliable your feet and ankle joint feel!

However you move through life,  feet that are stable and pliable help us to safely manage walking on uneven surfaces, improve balance, and prevent injury.

If you want to learn more about this process, book a lesson with me, either on Zoom or if you are in the NY/NJ area at my studio in Montclair, NJ.  Please use my contact form, tell me about yourself and leave your availability.  I will respond within 24 hours.

 

 

DOES GOOD POSTURE VANISH AFTER WE ARE 8 YEARS OLD?

back pain - bad posture

Posture is defined as” the carriage of the body as a whole”.  It is understood that good posture is preferable to bad posture; but what is good posture?  And how can it help to build more efficiency in workouts?

Good posture is often wrongly portrayed as a military stance – shoulders back, chest extended, knees locked, head thrown back. The reverse, which is shoulders forward, chest collapsed and head drooping forward is the opposite; also not good posture. 

Either of these forms of standing, sitting or working out can cause strain, pain, discomfort and injury.

The downward pull of the later causes compression of all the joints and ligaments and forces groups of muscles to work too hard to stabilize our core.  When stiffening in order to “stand up straight” there is over stabilizing, our breathing is shallow, and our ability to release our muscles in movement is seriously hampered. 

So then, what is the starting point for good posture?

Ideally, all of the parts of the body work most efficiently when the spine lengthens and muscles contract and release during movement.  The root of the lengthening starts at the top of the spine where the head rests.  

​Given that the head weighs 12-15 pounds, it is key that this heavy, bony structure is balancing and poised on top of the spine and not pressing down, compressing the top of the spine – as well as the rest of the spine.  Using ourselves with a lengthened spine supports our body as a whole. 

To prevent compression, let the muscles of the neck be free and not engage muscularly during your workouts.  Try being aware of your neck muscles the next time you are lifting weights, biking, doing Pilates, yoga or any other activity that requires effort. 

If you find that you are tightening your neck, pause for a moment to ease, and then proceed letting your free neck allow the head to balance on top of your spine rather than pull down.  The muscles needed to move you through your exercises will kick in and not compete with your neck. 

This may take practice as our habits are deeply ingrained, but awareness of inefficient habits such as too much tension lets us move towards efficiency and strength.  A series of Alexander Technique lessons facilitates this process in a subtle yet profound way.

alignment and back pain

A New ‘Twist’ on Alignment

Many years ago, as a professional ballet dancer, I loved moving in a big, round, spacious manner.  For the most part, this worked for me.  But it was that other part that, at times, stymied my movements.  I often lost my organization and alignment to the  unchecked, wild enjoyment of my approach.  This was not helpful especially n the corps de ballet where we all were required to move as one.

It reminds me of the adage “learn the rules, then break the rules”. I seem to remember that this was often applied to abstract painters who may have been encouraged to learn to paint figures before splattering paint on a canvas.

But perhaps a better example is  the actor playing The Elephant Man twisting himself night after night into a painful shape without having a foundation of alignment to call upon.

You may think that all the rigorous training that ballet dancers go through IS learning the rules.  Not necessarily; monkey see, monkey do (admittedly my way of learning) was not taking personal responsibility for controlling my body.

I found a great deal of information about proper alignment from a wonderful teacher, Maggie Black, a stickler for getting up on your leg and purifying movement using a conscious approach to body placement.  I wrote about this process here

Studying with Maggie opened up a door to freedom. Untamed, unconscious movement gave way to conscious awareness of  placement and alignment, giving me more confidence. I had learned the clarity of rules  and now enjoyed a great foundation where the rules could be gently broken!

Now,  cross training has been offered up for dancers (and athletes) to acquire more and more bionic strength, stretch, endurance and extended lines. However helpful, the fact is the bar has been raised to a level where there are still injuries as more and more is expected of ALL dancers, from amateurs to professionals, from ballet to ballroom.

After Maggie moved her studio out of NYC, I injured my back on a grueling tour.  Zena Rommett’s Floor Barre® entered my life and I have adopted it as my alignment, healing, and feel good tool for maintaining stability while using joints as they are designed to operate.  

This was the only method that helped me regain my previous level of activity. It continues to be my go-to tool for rehabilitating the body.  My back injury resurfaced in January and I nursed it through these months with Zena’s work and have healed myself!

I’d like to invite you to try this anatomically sound technique recommended by medical doctors, dancers, actors, and back pain sufferers.  It has saved many dancers careers over 30 years.  I integrate my Alexander work into this technique to offer the most organic level of movement.

Please click here for more information.  Classes starting soon and space is limited!

Happy Dancing!   If you know other dancers who may benefit from reading my blog and learning about my upcoming classes, please forward.

 

Student Reflections

Check out what my dancers, singers, musicians and yoga practitioners are saying about our work together!  

This is the only thing that I have done for body awareness, health and efficiency that I could call upon without having to go to someone else to fix me so it was really freeing in that I didn’t need to spend the money and time on massages especially with our busy lives, traveling dancing and everything that we do.  With Bette, I was still able to use this practice in my daily life, my dancing and in my teaching.

Erin Marie Aiken – Professional Ballroom Dancer/Teacher

I began my study of ballet as a young child.  Over the years as a student, dancer, and teacher, I acquired habits that did not benefit me, but it was not until I was an adult, teaching ballet full‑time, that these improper habits started to cause pain in various parts of my body.  Contacting Bette was one of the best decisions that I ever made.  I had always been told that I was too tense as a dancer.  Working with her helped me to identify unnecessary tension, but more importantly she helped me to release the tension and gave me ways to think so that I could continue to work/live with an awareness of the unnecessary tension in my body.  By focusing on the Alexander Technique principals, Bette essentially changed my entire approach to ballet, I now feel so much more at ease while I am dancing – I certainly have more energy and am in much less pain.  As an added plus, my students have benefited as well.  I am better able to teach them how to move with ease and grace from a very young age – I teach in a manner that will stop habits of tension before they can ever take hold.

Susan Sorota, Teacher of Ballet

I was diagnosed with scoliosis as a young teenager.  For all of my adult life I have had back discomfort related to scoliosis.  My back has been especially uncomfortable when doing normal every day activities such as sitting in folding chairs, sleeping on soft beds in hotels and taking road trips in the family car.  Over time I came to accept my back issues as a given – and I had no expectation that anything would change because my scoliosis wasn’t going away.  But all of that did change when I started working with Bette and learning the Alexander principles.  Over the time I have worked with Bette, my back discomfort has decreased significantly – I thank Bette for imparting her knowledge of Alexander principles and encouragement in a way that has changed my physical well being, as well as my dancing for the better!

Anne, Pro-Am Ballroom dancer

I had no idea how profound this work would be! Of course most of it has to do with Bette’s expertise and innate sense of what I need. It was like magic – my head no longer felt heavy and my jaw, shoulders and neck were free of tension. Through common sense and subtle reminding without actually DOING, I have been able to address my unconscious habits which have freed my body and thus my emotional state considerably. I highly recommend this work for everyone who moves!

Susan Borofsky, Singer, Yoga Teacher

“Studying AT with Bette, I am no longer suffering from a repetitive strain injury (I can play the saxophone pain free again) and, wonder of wonders, the chronic pain that I’ve had for a number of years in my right hip has disappeared.”

Steven Hartman, Saxophonist 

Bette is a wonderful teacher with great energy.  Alexander Technique is a subtle practice, and she does an excellent job tailoring the lesson to each student’s abilities and understanding.  She’s very positive and encouraging.  I always leave a session feeling better than when I got there.”

Grace Dadoyan,  Yoga Practitioner

Lessons in the Alexander Technique made me conscious of how I was using my body.  Bette helped me understand how to do things in a more efficient way without hurting or exerting unnecessary muscular effort.

Carol Meiseles, Violinist/Teacher

I offer a free 20 minute, no obligation phone consultation where you can discuss your issues and how I will address them in a lesson.  Although many students experience a therapeutic effect after their lessons, the bottom line is that you will learn to care for yourself through a better understanding of how your body is designed, awareness of what you are doing when you are doing it, and the means to change ingrained habits that are causing pain, discomfort or impediments to increasing your skill level.

Please contact me to set up a phone consultation or lesson appointment below:

effort, success and mindset

Think, Do Not Try

What happens if you want to break a habit that you know is not working for you anymore.

For example, if you want to modify your posture, do you try to change it?

If you are trying, how are you trying?  Which of the  the mechanisms, processes, and physical conditions are being addressed in order to ‘try’ harder’?

Could trying be filled with habit?  And tension?   You’re back to where you started.

Another example could be trying to stop a reaction, like getting angry or defensive when someone says something about you that you don’t like.  When trying, we only have what we already know.

This is the classic usage of trying – attempting to change a habit by replacing it with another one that looks a lot like the original

Why is that?  Habits can be cozy and familiar.  But what do we need if we want an alternative?

What we don’t already know.

Now we’re getting somewhere.

Those who play sports, performers who wish to increase their skill level or anyone seeking relief from back pain caused by poor posture needs to know the thing that is interfering with their goals.  Things like recruiting neck muscles to do the job that requires other muscles to engage but can’t because neck tightening has taken over.

But don’t judge them, have compassion for your newly discovered habit. Give it life – beware of aversion.  By accepting it, you can start to work with it.

  •  Believe that we can’t make these habits go away completely, but we can change our relationship to them.
  • We can change our relationship to them by changing our thoughts – directing  our body to move in the way we are designed – slowly developing awareness  of what we are actually doing in the moment.

Stay tuned!  Next week in Part 2, I’ll recount the stories of students that I have worked with and how they have changed their relationship to their habits in a positive way.

What does your body appreciate? Here are 3 important things.

First off – it passionately appreciates food, drink, activity and all manner of feel good emotions and sensations.  Right?

But here are 3 more things that your body really appreciates:

  1. An appropriate level of tone to get the job done.  Think using your arms with less big muscle tension and more oppositions.
  2. An awareness of your interfering habits (Yes, we all have them!) Awareness = knowing what to modify.  I can help you become aware and modify.
  3. Freer breathing which is facilitated by 1 and 2.

 

I remember how uncomfortable I felt nearly 16 years ago during my Alexander Technique training, being encouraged to adjust the level of tone in my body, even while walking across the floor.  My habits were strong and automatic.  It just didn’t feel right to modify the thing that felt right, yet slowly the “new” wrong feeling became what felt right, because it was more easeful and coordinated.  That feeling helped me to consciously adopt a methodology for CHANGE.

If it were a formula, it might look like this:

right feeling = wrong feeling

wrong feeling = pause and consider

pause and consider = awareness

awareness = possibility of a new feeling

a new feeling = the new efficient habit

Will the old habits go away completely?  Certainly not!  Yet, can our thinking activate more organization, strength AND ease whenever we choose?  Definitely.

As a ballet dancer, I wish I knew about this way back then.  Looking back I estimate that I was using at least 30% too much muscular tone in classes, rehearsals and performance.  I can see now that often, fear of losing my balance, forgetting the choreography, and holding my breath contributed greatly towards this 30% excess.

I can help you to create a new conscious tool that can help you feel better in ALL your activities.  This is another tool that all of us ballroom dancers can acquire that gives us another advantage  in our competitions.

If you want to find out more, book a lesson with me, either on Zoom or if you are in the NY/NJ area at my studio in Montclair, NJ.  Please use my contact form, tell me about yourself and leave your availability.  I will respond within 24 hours.

Happy Dancing!   If you know other dancers who may benefit from reading my blog, please forward.  If you are a  studio owner, I offer workshops on location.  Go to my home page to see an outline.

Eliud Kipchoge

INSPIRATION FROM A MARATHON RUNNER MEGA STAR

I love this guy!

​He is Eliud Kipchoge (El-ee-yood Kip-cho-gay). Eight straight marathons and Olympic gold are his.

He won the Berlin marathon on Saturday in a world record time of 2 hours, 1 minute, 39 seconds.  He is not far from an impossible sounding sub-2 hour marathon.

But it is his attitude around life that impresses, his disciplined, measured training and his intolerance for physical and emotional interferences that can easily highjack discipline.

For him, discipline is the premier reason he is successful. This is a familiar  training element with elite (and amateur) athletes, musicians, singers, and dancers, everywhere.  It is not about waiting to feel inspired to train, you just do it because it is the only way to get better.

But, here is the unique aspect of his discipline:

It is not about giving 100 per cent 100 per cent of the time.

“He estimates that he seldom pushes himself past 80% – 90 % tops – of his maximum effort when he circles the track for interval sessions, or when he embarks on a 25 mile run. Instead, he reserves the best of himself, all 100 per cent of Kipchoge, for race day – for the marathons he wins, for the records he chases”. (NY Times article 9/15/2018)

He goes into his marathons not overtrained, burned out or any version of doing too much.  He has measured out his considerable facility along the way with good health as a result.  He has never sustained a serious injury.

Of course I love this guy.  He already embodies the Alexander Technique principles of ‘knowing what you are doing while you are doing it’ and it’s not what you do but how you do it.   He’s not just working hard, he’s working smart. He is as energized by what he doesn’t do, as by what he does do.

Yet, he says “Only the disciplined ones in life are free.  If you are undisciplined you are a slave to your moods and passion”.  It’s just that his flavor of discipline includes a distilling down of all things unnecessary towards his goal.

The work I do focuses on this element of tuning your body like a radio station dial to get the best reception, sound, volume and balance of bass and treble.  It’s a process of learning how your body works for you and noticing when it works against you and what to do about it.

If you want to find out more, book a lesson with me, either on Zoom or if you are in the NY/NJ area at my studio in Montclair, NJ.  Please use my contact form below tell me about yourself and leave your availability.  I will respond within 24 hours.

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“You are all trying to do something, and that something is your habit. All I want is to show you is a little bit of nothing”.
Marjory Barstow, trained by F. M. Alexander

Strategizing change

When I was dancing professionally, I accepted change as a way of life.  My career took me all over the country and the world – I changed cities, theaters, hotels, studios, planes, trains, buses and restaurants, often for 3 month stretches.  It was my job to follow an itinerary, created by someone else.  I felt like I was in the army.  To this day, I am fascinated by the implicit structure and discipline of the military.

I was in charge of taking care of myself to the degree that it would support the requirements of the hours spent rehearsing, performing and taking a daily technique class.

This is well understood by elite athletes, competitive ballroom dancers (both amateur and professional), musicians, singers and in short, all performers who dedicate their lives to their art form. It is all encompassing and there had better be a strong level of enjoyment, passion, or form of commitment to keep going.

The flavor of my upbringing fed into the required discipline  of my career.  My mother was fond of orchestrating  my talent so I was quite practiced in cooperating with her.  She expected me to accomplish the thing she wanted for me (actually herself!) . Mostly, I could deliver, which set up a nice little complex that drove me to fulfill other’s expectations.

For the most part, at least initially, my form of commitment to my career was habit bolstered by conditioning.

But here’s the good news!

I learned that there was a clear means for changing ingrained habits that had less to do with discipline and more to do with adopting a process that can be utilized whenever I choose..

The formula goes like this:

  • Recognize the habit that you want to change.
  • Introduce new thinking that steers the nervous system towards efficiency, ease and breath.
  • Use these tools to reprogram your nervous system away from an unwanted habit.  These habits can be over tightening muscles, not engaging appropriate muscles to complete a series of dance moves and even jumping to anger or rage,

 

I learned that if I could move myself across the room without engaging my neck muscles, my core would kick in.  If I opted to notice and stop my neck tightening  I was much less likely to go to rage.

The most interesting part of this is HOW to release the familiar habit of tightening and enjoy more freedom AND strength.

Stay tuned for my group class announcement in September where I will work with you on how to unlock tension, dance with more ease and learn an educational tool for life!

If you want to find out more, book a lesson with me, either on Zoom or if you are in the NY/NJ area at my studio in Montclair, NJ.  Please use my contact form, tell me about yourself and leave your availability.  I will respond within 24 hours.

Happy Dancing!   If you know other dancers who may benefit from reading my blog, please forward.  If you are a  studio owner, I offer workshops on location.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

MY FIRST AT TEACHER HELPED ME TO BE COMFORTABLE WITH BEING CLUELESS!

Yea, clueless was liberating.

​I was spending so much time trying to  be right with my posture that I soon realized that my idea of right was all ‘wrong’.  So what’s better than assuming that there is a right to get to?  Be  clueless! Or as the dictionary defines it:  having no knowledge, understanding, or ability.  That emptied all my pre-conceived notions!  At least, temporarily however……

My assumptions about the muscular components for movement needed to shift.  And I found that shift with my first Alexander teacher, Pamela Anderson.

Pamela instructed me to ponder not what was muscularly right (habit) but what was free –less muscularly  engaged – and light (a healthier habit ).  Freedom from muscular contraction was massively difficult  after working so hard for so long in my dancing career.  If I wasn’t doing something muscular throughout my whole body, what was I doing?  This applied to both dancing and the daily, more pedestrian ways of moving.

It turned out that knowing the structure of my skeleton was one of the pieces  of information I was missing.  Then,  learning to use my body in a way that honored that structure.  And then allowing my mind and my body to be blank so that a new learning could take place, preventing the old inefficiencies from taking over. Those pesky, comfortable yet unwanted habits run deep.

Here’s what Pamela said in an interview about her own first lesson:

At my first lesson, I was touched and taught in a way I had never felt before.  Instead of manipulating my body into some contorted form to be able to “dance,” I was gently coaxed to discover my own unique structure and mechanics.  I felt who I was inside, which I had been tightening and trying to force into some distortion of the right way to be and move. Plus I was learning how structurally I was designed to function. It felt so good!!!

As I was taught by my first teacher, I am honored to pass on these life changing, comfort inducing experiences onto my  students.  Click here to watch me working with my student Erin Marie Akin.

Watch for my workshop in September!  I will be sending an outline in my next post.

If you want to find out more, book a lesson with me, either on Zoom or if you are in the NY/NJ area at my studio in Montclair, NJ.  Please use my contact form, tell me about yourself and leave your availability.  I will respond within 24 hours.
 
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